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Kim Porter's full interview in Essence magazine reveals more details about the root causes of her breakup with longtime love Sean "Diddy" Combs, including his disclosure of a secret baby from another woman.

"As black women we sacrifice," Porter says in the magazine's October issue, which hits newsstands today. "We stand by our man, through thick and thin, through whatever. But if you feel like, 'Maybe I am getting the short end of the stick,' that's when a change has to take place."

Porter says a girlfriend told her about Diddy's secret baby when she was pregnant with their twin daughters D'Lila Star and Jessie James, who were born Dec. 21.

"I wasn't even coming from the place of who, what, why," Porter tells the magazine. "I laid low and did what women do: I did my background work, collected information [about the other woman]. But I wasn't even on it like that because I was pregnant, and what was bubbling inside me was a blessing from God. I couldn't let my energy be on that. I didn't have time for any drama, trauma and bulls**t."

As it turns out, the twins were born five months after Diddy's other baby, whose mother is 33-year-old Sarah Chapman of Atlanta. Chapman worked in the fashion industry and knew Combs for several years, her attorney tells Essence. Porter said it would've been nice had Diddy told her about Chapman's pregnancy himself.

"I would have preferred to find out from him because that's a man," she says. "I know it's hard for anyone to say to their significant other, 'I've gotten into some sh** and I got a baby on the way.' But men do get caught up in things; I'm not naive to that. Still, there's a right and a wrong way to handle it. Because, most of all, we were friends. Even if I couldn't have understood it as a woman, I would have understood it as a friend."

Ultimately, Combs did tell Porter about the baby, but it was after their twins were born, she says.

"He told me that he may have gotten himself into a situation and he may have fathered another child outside the relationship and I said, 'Really? Well, I already knew. I'm glad you decided to be a man,'" recalls Porter. "I was like, 'Dude, this is so wack I can't even respect you right now.' And for me, once the respect is gone, I'm not even listening to you."

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